Genuine relationships help heal your mind, body, and soul like no other. On the other hand, challenging relationships can irritate and torment you like no other. There is a famous saying, ‘Forging relationships is easy but maintaining them is difficult’. There cannot be a more apt description.
Falling in love is indeed beautiful and magical. There is a strong belief that if two people are madly in love, the It is hard to stay committed in painful relationships and even harder to walk out of them. But do you know what is even more complicated than both the above combined? It is looking deep enough for signs to understand if a relationship is worth keeping. Do you agree?
Primarily, there are a couple of reasons responsible for this complication. Firstly, our busy schedules hardly leave us with any time to introspect. Secondly, we are so overpowered and driven by our inflated egos that reflecting on issues seems like an admission of weakness or guilt. The truth, though, is strikingly different. Understanding these signs can help save your relationship and prevent you or your partner from walking away.
We understand such constraints prevent you from understanding these signs, even if they are loud and clear. It is why we present, for everyone’s benefit, five questions to help you gain clarity if saving a relationship is worth your time and effort.
Are you committed to growing together?
When couples decide to take drastic steps, it is mostly when they are in a fit of rage and a state of constant conflict, disconnect, or betrayal. The first aspect for couples, or for that matter, counsellors or couples retreats that offer help for married couples, is to understand whether both the partners are willing to grow together. If both partners are willing to accept and learn from past mistakes and implement positive changes, no matter how challenging, the relationship is sure to take a turn for the better.
Is there mutual respect?
It is a no-brainer if someone says you have to be the same as your partner to be compatible. That’s not right. Every person is different. And it is these dissimilarities that make relationships exciting. Most people seek partners who can honor and respect their perspectives, feelings, and personality, balance their negatives and positives, and help them grow. If both partners have genuine mutual respect and are willing to extend the same into the future, they can drop the bags they packed and step back inside their dream house.
Do you share the same values?
Values greatly influence what you want to achieve in life and help you stay confident, happy, and content. You and your partner don’t need to have the same mindset. If you share many similar values, it is a clear indication that the relationship is worth saving.
Is there a vision hiding somewhere?
We often see that a lack of effective communication leads to a rift in relationships despite partners sharing the same vision. We are not saying it is mandatory to share the same dreams. No, that’s not possible. But there are times when one partner goes north, and the other is hell-bent on going south. If that be the case, it is best to part ways. However, if partners are flexible, creative, and willing to listen and meet halfway to allow their dreams to coexist without overpowering each other, that’s a sign you can save your relationship.
Are both of you willing to forgive?
Individuals must be willing to seek forgiveness and forgive to move ahead in life. But does that always happen? No. Our inflated egos and the feeling of superiority make it difficult for us to seek forgiveness and forgive. If partners are willing to forgive each other, trust us, a relationship will only get stronger. But the change cannot happen overnight. It is why even the best marriage therapist advises couples to take some time before they reach a decision.
It is perfectly natural for doubts to creep into relationships over time. However, it does not mean people are not meant to be together. Relationships have great potential if handled sensitively. Be willing to listen, be flexible, respect each other, go on short vacations, or visit marriage retreats. Do whatever it takes if you see a ray of hope; just do not let go.
Resources:
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